Through the eyes of a traveler: the biggest problem is that the people of Lithuania are too serious and reserved.

Man is the biggest problem.

the decline of morals, the stupefaction of youth...

"Today's youth is accustomed to luxury. They are distinguished by bad manners, despises authority, does not respect elders. Children argue with parents, greedily swallow food and taunt teachers."
(Short. Athens, V-IV centuries BC)

Biblical: "And because of the forgetfulness of the laws, the love of many will grow cold."
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People around ... I want silence
Take a look at the questions on the first page of the irtz and everything will become clear.
People don't want to think, they don't want to love themselves, they don't want to be deeper when superficiality suits them. People want money and to be loved and respected by everyone.
You can add the corruption of children and adolescents through the mass media, an ill-conceived curriculum in high school, where no one teaches the child and tells how to behave in society, what values are important and inviolable, what morality to follow is more correct and safe for oneself. They do not teach to speak with their hearts, to love and hear and understand themselves. Hence cruel hearts, unstable behavior, mutilated destinies and souls in the adult world.
Yes, what kind of personal development of a child can we talk about when adults themselves direct them to debauchery, drugs, alcohol. A simple example - they just shot a film in Russia called "14+", where children of 15 years old are filming in erotic scenes ... (put out the lights, lower the curtain)

Here the question is rather, what is the main problem of modern man? What prevents him from living happily from birth, so that there is no need to pursue this happiness all his life? What is the universal pledge of love for all? And how not to miss the moment, how to make the right choice?..
In general, it is necessary to consider individuality, the possibility of a normal childhood with an acceptable upbringing and values and understanding instilled from birth, and the essence of the whole society will be clear.
mnu brown))))) there are 3 floors) norms)) enough)
Modern man does not need love at all, as well as a real genuine culture of behavior, excluding selfish motives and hidden lust. He is interested in a quick buzz that is passed like a baton along with a "beautiful" bouquet of carnal viruses. And something "greater" cannot be embraced by those who are petty and closed in their complexes, presented as almost pious principles for perceiving relationships. So, in my words, one can trace a fairly simple conclusion: speed is not always equal to quality, but shameful slowness is fraught with the loss of that very mutual "higher love" that one dreams of, but does not make any serious efforts to achieve.
connect the TV as a second monitor and voila

I already knew that modern people have a very restless mind, but I did not think that this was a problem for all “whites”, that is, Western people. Moreover, I assumed that this was more about women, but it turned out that the “Europeans” have this feature no less developed.

First, an Ayurvedic doctor mentioned this after testing, saying that, like all Europeans, the brain is working too rapidly. But Asians (not by nationality, but by environment) do not have this, they say. I was surprised. Decided to think about it later.

See how simple it is. The situation is you need help. For example, you are walking from the store and you are carrying a very heavy bag of potatoes. You really need help. And nearby passes, for example, your neighbor. It would seem - ask him to help! But no!

A war begins in our brain: to ask or not to ask? What will he think of me? What if he refuses?

It's awkward to load. But it's too hard to pull. He will say, she bought it herself and drag it. But in the lectures they say you have to ask. Maybe try? Or is it better next time?

And even if she asked, the war does not end. If he agreed, you can break your brain on whether he wants something for it, why he agreed, maybe he has some kind of views on me, and what other neighbors will think when they see this. And if he refused, then you can talk about how to look into his eyes now, and that he is not such a good person as he seemed.

Indians have it easier. And not only them. Need help. Help me? Yes fine. No - good. And that's all. And no complex structures, attempts to predict the thoughts and actions of other people, assessments of decency, and so on. Everything is simple.

This has always amazed me in India, how simple and easy it is for them to ask for help, and how easy it is to contact them.

Take any other situation that could be solved more easily and you will see how our restless mind can make the simple difficult.

If, for example, you like another person. Like what he does, how he does it, how he looks and so on. What's on your mind? Should he talk about it? How appropriate and correct is this? What will he think? But won't it get hot? Will he laugh at me? What if he comes up with more than he really is? What if someone finds out that you like it? And so on. It would seem - like it - say that's all. The person will be pleased, and you too. But no.

They do it in India. You walk down the street, and strangers tell you what a beautiful sari, how well you wound it, what beautiful children, what a smart mother you are. They do not want to build any relationship with you, they just walk by and say what they feel. They said - and went on, and most likely, they no longer remember you after five meters.

What if you don't like what the other person does to you? The key here is “with you”, we are talking about situations where a person acts towards you in a way that causes you pain or inconvenience. For example, they stepped on your foot and stand. You boil internally and when a person’s conscience wakes up, because he behaves this way on purpose! The farther, the more you are able to come up with both about a person and about his attitude towards you. And the person simply does not know that your leg is there. Doesn't know, doesn't feel. But you yourself have already come up with something and are offended, angry.

And so in everything, in any of our relationships, the head is capable of complicating everything, inventing something that does not exist, pumping it up. Remember the movie where the heroine told her beloved that they would someday have a son, and then trouble would happen to him? Here is a classic example. The son hasn't even been born yet. Maybe even a daughter will be born. Or no one will be born with this man. And she is already worried about a person who is not there yet.

Our restless mind is able to draw something for us and then get scared of it. And instead of here and now, we live in an unknown place. Not even in the past, because we see the past through the prism of our restless mind. Not even in the future, because the mind draws pictures for us, most often those that will never come true (and thank God!).

We live in these fantasies of our inflamed restless mind.

The girl, having barely met the guy, begins to be tormented by doubts whether it is her betrothed or not, whether he likes her the same way or wants to take advantage of her, what kind of children they will have, whether it is worth taking his last name, where they will grow old and how to name the grandchildren. She mentally married him already, and there she managed to quarrel and break up. And he simply invited her to drink tea together.

I often think of different stories told by girls who have healed relationships with their parents. How, after many years, they were able to speak out their grievances and found that moms and dads did not know anything about their torment and did not want to inflict on children. For example, as a child, I had a terribly prickly hat that I hated. But my mother asked me to put it on, because it is very cold outside. And my mind then drew different scenarios for me that my mother was torturing me on purpose. And a couple of years ago we remembered this hat, and it turned out that my mother knew nothing about my suffering, because I didn’t tell her anything. For her, it was just a warm hat and that's it. We grow up like this from childhood, we are taught this - and people, and the environment, and habits.

We try in every way to interpret any external signal in relation to ourselves. Although even Freud, beloved by many, said that "sometimes a banana is just a banana."

For example, if a girl hears a whistle from behind, then often she can interpret this as an appeal to an easily accessible woman, project it onto herself, and as a result, she will be offended, angry, and begin to blame herself for what she put on today. But most likely, they whistle not at all to her and with completely different thoughts. In the same way, when someone laughs behind your back, 90 percent of women will decide that they are laughing at her and frantically begin to check if she forgot to wear anything, if her legs are crooked, and so on.

And with clothes the same strange situation. We don't wear what we like, because what if someone thinks. We wear fashion, like everyone else, even if it is uncomfortable and we don’t like it. And constantly at the mirror we evaluate ourselves - how does it look? What signals does it send? Should I lose weight for this dress? Or vice versa, get fat? Am I too old for these shorts? Is it possible to wear such a dress of a mother of three children? What if people think it's me? What if I step on the hem of this skirt somewhere? What if I meet a girl in the same dress? What if other mothers on the site condemn me for showing off? What if your husband doesn't like it? It would seem - put on what you like, and you will feel differently - that's all. But no.

Instead of a stimulus-response, we get a complex chain of stimulus - long throwing of a restless mind - a reaction - and again the torment of the mind.

We spend too much energy on this, trying to understand what they think of us, how they treat us.

We complicate our own life, instead of just living, we think so much that there is no strength left for life.

In relationships, we endlessly fight with non-existent problems and suck problems out of our finger. We really suffer from stupidity more than from karma. We really look like crazy people.

How many far-fetched problems in our life! Because we want to be good, like everyone else, perfect, we do not accept our past and are afraid of the future. We can’t even often understand what we want, where our desires are, and where others’ desires.

Too restless mind, fed by TV, upbringing and rules of conduct, a bunch of useless knowledge that we don’t use, education that, for a crust, but ruffled the nerves and filled the head with nonsense ...

In this place, we have a lot to learn from the Indians or the Balinese. Yes, we sometimes evaluate them as too simple and not knowing the decency of people. But they do not worry about this topic and do not even think about what we think about them. They continue to live the way they feel and be themselves. And we should learn how to calm our restless brains, and this will already be able to bring us closer to feeling.

P.S. How they joke - God gave you brains to think what dress to wear, and you are about the fate of mankind. Do not do it this way!

P.P.S. And please, relax your frowned forehead, under which a war of thoughts has already begun on the topic that it is impossible to live without brains at all, that they are all poor, what am I doing here of all the fools. Relax. The article is not about that.

“Thousands of books have been written on ways to make women happy.
Everything is wasted. Be honest - that's enough."

- Ersin Tezjan

#I'm not afraid to say

Facebook promotion # I'm not afraid to say where women (mostly women) shared stories of their pain, stories of thousands of locks and taboos, stories of sexual violence and abuse.

With all the justified and not too fears of psychotherapists about retraumatization, I consider this movement to be unambiguously correct and useful.

We cannot separate psychotherapy from social discussion.

Women and men need to go to therapists and discuss their troubles in silence, in an atmosphere of trust and support, but this is not enough to make a difference in society.
If the problem does not come out of the tightly closed offices in the square (online and offline), there will be no social changes.

And, by the way, given that the topic is taboo in the post-Soviet space, the level of psychological literacy is extremely low, and the services of therapists are expensive, how many of these stories still reach the ears of “healers of souls”?

The individual needs individual healing, but society needs public healing.

This healing takes place through conversation, through dialogue, through opening and cleaning the stinking public cesspools. Through overcoming fear. Fear to say. Fear to say “I don’t want to live like this anymore”. Fear of feeling your own pain, and fear of sharing the pain of another.

Yes, meeting even with a description of violence causes pain, but pain is a symptom that calls us to change something. And I hope that this action, having caused pain, will push at least some people to go to a psychotherapist and engage in healing (not only victims of violence, but also the rapists themselves - also victims in fact).

And I really, really hope that it will help the movement of society towards more just, tolerant and friendly relations.

This path is difficult and long, and it consists of small steps, like any other.

Critics of the action say that they say that such serious problems are not solved by flash mobs.

Thank you for opening our eyes, otherwise we did not know.

Of course they don't!

Not a single problem is solved by a flash mob. And it is not solved by the party meeting.

But the difference between a flash mob and a party meeting is that no one drives anyone to a flash mob - people come there because it turns out to be important to them. To realize a certain value. To talk about what is truly important to them personally.

As the suffragettes engaged in non-violent methods of civil disobedience—chaining themselves to gates, boarding railroad tracks, demonstrating, and standing in the streets with banners—as New York textile workers took to the streets, “Empty Pot March” against low wages and poor working conditions, did anyone think that these antics of “crazy women” would solve the problem?

No, no one thought so. But the women went out and out into the streets, and eventually became visible to those who were happy with everything. And they had to be dealt with, they had to be taken into account and their voice had to be heeded.

So to state: "I do not like it", is the first step, the main thing is not to stop at it and continue to strive to be heard and listened to.

Men

But in general, I now want to talk about men and with men, many of whom were not ready to look into the abyss and hid behind the standard set of reactions: irritation, suppression of feelings, rationalization, generalization, detachment, withdrawal, sarcasm, irony, suspicion, conspiracy theory blaming the victim...

The wave of the flash mob, in addition to grief, pain, words of support and condemnation, also splashed a lot of useful materials, advice from psychologists and just thoughts into the feed.

The global problems of mankind affect our planet as a whole. Therefore, all peoples and states are engaged in their solution. This term appeared in the late 60s of the XX century. Currently, there is a special scientific branch that deals with the study and solution of global problems of mankind. It is called globalization.

Scientific specialists from various fields work in this area: biologists, soil scientists, chemists, physicists, geologists. And this is no coincidence, because the global problems of mankind are complex in nature and their appearance does not depend on any one factor. On the contrary, it is very important to take into account the economic, political and social changes taking place in the world. Life on the planet in the future depends on how correctly the modern global problems of mankind will be solved.

You need to know: some of them have existed for a long time, others, quite “young”, are connected with the fact that people began to negatively affect the world around them. Because of this, for example, the environmental problems of mankind have appeared. They can be called the main difficulties of modern society. Although the problem of environmental pollution itself appeared a long time ago. All varieties interact with each other. Often one problem leads to another.

Sometimes it happens that the global problems of mankind can be solved and completely get rid of them. First of all, this concerns epidemics that threatened the lives of people on the entire planet and led to their mass death, but then they were stopped, for example, with the help of an invented vaccine. At the same time, completely new problems are emerging that were previously unknown to society, or already existing ones are growing to a world level, for example, the depletion of the ozone layer. The cause of their occurrence is human activity. The problem of environmental pollution allows you to see this very clearly. But in other cases, too, there is a clear tendency for people to influence the misfortunes that befall them and threaten their existence. So, what are the problems of humanity that have planetary significance?

environmental disaster

It is caused by daily environmental pollution, depletion of terrestrial and water resources. All these factors together can accelerate the onset of an environmental catastrophe. Man considers himself the king of nature, but at the same time does not seek to preserve it in its original form. This is hindered by industrialization, which is proceeding at a rapid pace. By negatively influencing its habitat, mankind destroys it and does not think about it. No wonder pollution standards have been developed that are regularly exceeded. As a result, the environmental problems of mankind may become irreversible. To avoid this, we must pay attention to the preservation of flora and fauna, try to save the biosphere of our planet. And for this it is necessary to make production and other human activities more environmentally friendly so that the impact on the environment is less aggressive.

demographic problem

The world's population is growing at a rapid pace. And although the “population explosion” has already subsided, the problem still remains. The situation with food and natural resources is deteriorating. Their stocks are shrinking. At the same time, the negative impact on the environment is increasing, it is impossible to cope with unemployment and poverty. There are difficulties with education and health care. The solution of the global problems of humanity of this nature was undertaken by the UN. The organization created a special plan. One of his items is the family planning program.

Disarmament

After the creation of a nuclear bomb, the population tries to avoid the consequences of its use. For this, treaties between countries on non-aggression and disarmament are signed. Laws are being adopted to ban nuclear arsenals and stop the arms trade. The presidents of the leading states hope in this way to avoid the outbreak of the Third World War, as a result of which, as they suspect, all life on Earth can be destroyed.

Food problem

In some countries, the population is experiencing food shortages. The people of Africa and other third countries of the world are especially affected by hunger. To solve this problem, two options have been created. The first is aimed at ensuring that pastures, fields, fishing zones gradually increase their area. If you follow the second option, it is necessary not to increase the territory, but to increase the productivity of existing ones. For this, the latest biotechnologies, methods of land reclamation, and mechanization are being developed. High-yielding varieties of plants are being developed.

Health

Despite the active development of medicine, the emergence of new vaccines and drugs, humanity continues to get sick. Moreover, many ailments threaten the lives of the population. Therefore, in our time, the development of methods of treatment is actively conducted. Substances of modern design are created in laboratories for effective immunization of the population. Unfortunately, the most dangerous diseases of the 21st century - oncology and AIDS - remain incurable.

The ocean problem

Recently, this resource is not only actively explored, but also used for the needs of mankind. As experience shows, it can provide food, natural resources, energy. The ocean is a trade route that helps restore communication between countries. At the same time, its reserves are used unevenly, military operations are conducted on its surface. In addition, it serves as a base for the disposal of waste, including radioactive waste. Mankind is obliged to protect the wealth of the World Ocean, avoid pollution, and rationally use its gifts.

Space exploration

This space belongs to all mankind, which means that all peoples must use their scientific and technical potential to explore it. For the deep study of space, special programs are being created that use all modern achievements in this area.

People know that if these problems do not disappear, the planet may die. But why do many do not want to do anything, hoping that everything will disappear, “dissolve” by itself? Although, in truth, such inaction is better than the active destruction of nature, the pollution of forests, water bodies, the destruction of animals and plants, especially rare species.

It is impossible to understand the behavior of such people. It would not hurt them to think about what to live, if, of course, it is still possible, on a dying planet their children and grandchildren will have to. You should not count on the fact that someone will be able to rid the world of difficulties in a short time. The global problems of humanity can only be solved jointly if all of humanity makes an effort. The threat of destruction in the near future should not frighten. Best of all, if she can stimulate the potential inherent in each of us.

Do not think that it is difficult to cope with the world's problems alone. From this it seems that it is useless to act, thoughts appear about powerlessness in the face of difficulties. The point is to join forces and help the prosperity of at least your city. Solve the little problems of your habitat. And when every person on Earth begins to have such responsibility to himself and his country, large-scale, global problems will also be solved.

- A graphic artist who became a businessman and traveler to the farthest corners of our planet.

I never became an artist, although I studied for five years. Nevertheless, the artistic nature is still present in me and sometimes reminds me quite strongly of myself. How? For example, two years ago, quite unexpectedly for myself, I started playing the piano. I constantly come up with things that are somehow connected with creativity. I did not become a certified artist, because when I had almost completed my studies, I dropped out and started my own business. For about seven years I had my own small business - wholesale of optical goods. Now, however, I have abandoned free enterprise and work in a trading firm.

Many people unfamiliar with the world of trading have a rather vague idea of what a trader does. Could you tell me more?

I work for a company that sells and resells raw materials. For example, we are engaged in the resale of grain, oil, biodiesel and their derivatives. Sometimes we buy raw materials in the East and sell them to Western partners, sometimes these are intermediary transactions between the CIS countries. We can buy raw materials, for example, in Germany and resell them, or buy biodiesel fuel directly from the manufacturer's plant and deliver it to the refinery, where it is mixed with diesel fuel. Personally, I sell vegetable oils and biodiesel. My area of responsibility includes negotiations with clients, both sellers and buyers, I often have to go on business trips to Poland or Germany.

How do you reconcile the profession of a trader, which, as you just mentioned, requires one hundred percent commitment and wanderlust?

Hmm (pause), let's start with the fact that each of us strives to earn money for which you can not only survive, but also realize yourself. In the world of creativity, people still earn less than in the world of trading. At one time, it was this argument that convinced me to look for a job in the world of trading. Although I do not think that happiness lies in money, but, in my opinion, money should bring satisfaction, make a person feel like a person. So that you can go on vacation once a year, save money on an apartment, buy a car. How can work and creativity be reconciled? Very simply, I do art, creativity in my free time after work. The same job allows me to travel - about once a year I take a long vacation and leave for a month.

- When did you start traveling?

Seven years ago, a good friend of mine talked me into what we thought was an exotic trip. That time we decided on a trip to Ukraine, to Chernobyl, to the exclusion zone. My friend, myself, and another colleague of ours went to Chernobyl by car and managed to visit Crimea along the way. The next year we took a trip to Nepal. Now it seems to me that my transformation from a simple tourist to a traveler happened right there in Nepal - I realized that I wanted to travel.

- What are you looking for in your travels?

Other cultures that are completely different from what I knew before. For example, I am interested in how people live, what they eat for dinner, what they talk about, what they joke about, what songs they sing and what dances they dance. Another thing is that thanks to travel you can meet other travelers. I like that in this way a sense of comradeship appears, tourists or travelers become a brotherhood. Like Musketeers - one for all, all for one.

- Which countries do you prefer to travel to?

For my travels, I try to choose countries that are outside - these are the countries of South and North America, Asia. So far, I have not had time to visit Australia, the Arctic and African countries.

Most people like to travel in comfort, while a minority, on the contrary, are looking for adventure on their own. Which group of travelers do you belong to?

Neither the first nor the second. I believe that you need to travel light, to be "poor" in order to get to know the country as closely as possible, staying in comfortable hotels, according to the all-inclusive model - you cannot recognize the real country you travel through. Traveling in this way, you can get to interesting places, meet new people, learn about the culture and history of the country. The less comfort, the more difficult and difficult, the more such a journey sinks into memory.

Have you been in extreme conditions?

In those in which there would be a threat to my life - no. The most extreme situation I've been in happened to me in Georgia. And I got into it of my own free will. With friends, we went to the mountains, it was summer below, and it was cold in the mountains, snow, rain, hail and hurricane winds. My light jacket soon got wet, moisture got into my boots, and at night, because of the cold, I couldn’t sleep. Moreover, another storm began, in general, then the adrenaline was enough for me.

If you like extreme sensations, maybe it's time to go mountain climbing? Conquer, for example, Everest?

Thanks, but no. Mountaineering and hiking on Everest, after all, is not for me. Each trip to the mountains at such a height means risk, there is the possibility of not returning or returning frostbitten and sick.

- Experienced tourists are advised to prepare a plan before each trip and strictly adhere to it.

Maybe so, but I'm a very atypical tourist (laughs). I love that my travels have an element of randomness, chaos, if you will. When everything is strictly distributed in its place - it's damn boring.

- A traditional question for an experienced traveler - how many countries have you already visited?

I have been traveling intensively for about seven years, during this period I managed to visit ... plus or minus thirty countries.

- How does Lithuania look against the background of thirty countries?

In my opinion, Lithuania is a unique country, an oasis, if you will. We have clean air, forests, few people, good weather. At any time you can get into a car or a bicycle, half an hour, a maximum of an hour and you are already outside the city - in the forest or on the lake. Freedom. Since there are few inhabitants in Lithuania, even 100% city dwellers can easily go to the countryside and buy fresh milk, cheese or any other ecological goods from farmers or peasants. In the same Germany or the UK, everything looks completely different, not to mention the huge Chinese metropolitan areas with millions of inhabitants.

- But what about our problems that politicians like to talk about?

Personally, it seems to me that the biggest problem is that they are too serious and reserved. Right now I am in Argentina, in a country that has much more serious problems than Lithuania - high inflation, high prices, but people here are much more open, have fun, enjoy life. It is this attitude to life that we should learn from the Argentines. Other countries, for example, in Asia or Latin America, have much more serious problems, the standard of living in Lithuania is relatively very, very good.

- If the Lithuanian society is too serious and closed, then what about the Poles and Russians in Lithuania?

I think that most of our problems, Poles and Russians and Lithuanians, are due to the fact that our country has been in the composition for a very long time. People are used to hiding behind masks, saying one thing and thinking another, people are afraid to trust each other. Lithuania and we - its inhabitants - are traumatized by the post-Soviet syndrome. Another thing is that we - I mean in general - are more northern, slow, not expressive people.

- What can and should be done so that Poles, Russians, and Lithuanians can finally understand each other?

The problem is that we have been living in the 21st century for a long time, but we think according to the patterns of the past 20th century. The political relations of our countries, and I mean also Lithuania, are far from good, but this does not mean that we should consider that all Russians are bad and wish the worst for Lithuania. It seems to me that we need to understand that politics is one thing, but life, human relations are another. What can be done? The 20th century was very painful for our peoples, but it seems to me that it is time to grow up, childhood has passed, for those peoples who made mistakes, caused pain and insults to other peoples - to apologize and try to start all over again. As long as we - people - will think in categories - I am a Pole, I am a Russian, I am a Lithuanian - we will never find a common language.