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07.07.2008 The right choice is the key to success

A conscious choice of a profession affects the future life, determines the success of self-realization, socialization, career and professional growth. The need to organize effective professional counseling aimed at helping a teenager in this, meets social and personal requirements, makes this problem extremely relevant.

We are talking about this with Valentin Vasilyevich Rybalka, Doctor of Psychology, who believes that the most important thing in life is to be a creative and spiritually developed person.

Valentin Vasilyevich, why do you think the urgency of the problem of vocational guidance has recently grown? How have views on its task changed?

As usual, young people choose a profession based on external attractiveness, for example, in terms of salary, the image of the institution, the prestige of the profession, following the example of parents, friends, etc. But at the same time, the qualities of the personality itself are often ignored, neglected. The latter occurs because a person, as a rule, knows better the objective reality (a subject of study, his clothes, workplace, etc.) than his subjective psychological properties.

Ask, for example, a schoolchild what his intelligence quotient (IQ), type of temperament or character, interest structure, meaning of life, etc., and in response you will hear a very sad and ghostly assessment of yourself. At the same time, most modern professions are very complex and also require careful in-depth knowledge, and in addition, their number reaches thousands. That is why it is so important to find one's own, "native labor", as G.S. Skovoroda once said. And a bad choice of profession leads to dissatisfaction with oneself, inefficiency of work, unsuccessful career, unemployment and, moreover, to suffering from occupational diseases. And if we add to this that the structure of professions is rapidly changing, we also need mobility, flexibility, readiness for a timely change in specialty, then the problem of choice becomes more complicated. That is why a significant part of people need professional qualified assistance in solving this problem, which is carried out by the career guidance system.

How should you work with a career counselor to make the right choice regarding your future profession?

The process of choosing a profession is characterized by multidimensionality. For the right, adequate choice, a school graduate needs to do a lot of inner work. The research work of a career counselor should contain several important stages.

First stage- pro-informational. It allows you to get maximum information about professions, their content, status in the job market, the level of required education, employment prospects, and the possibility of continuing education. At this stage, the career guide acquaints the young person with professiograms and psychograms of various professions.

Second phase- professional diagnostics, which aims to identify the motives, interests, inclinations and abilities of a person to master the profession.

Third stage- vocational counseling, which provides assistance in choosing a profession based on a comparison of profesiograms and psychograms with psychodiagnostic data of a young person and establishing the degree of correspondence between the profession and its qualities.

During the consultation process, the applicant may be reoriented from a randomly selected one to another profession (specialty), but the final choice remains with him.

Fourth stage- professional approbation, during which students get acquainted with workplaces, their technical equipment; the abilities of the future employee are determined and tested directly in labor activity, the ability to perform operations in a certain sequence; the expectations of young people are correlated with the real working conditions; they evaluate their own opportunities for mastering the chosen profession.

It should be noted that some professions require long and thorough training, education - in universities, colleges, vocational institutions, courses, etc. Therefore, the sooner a person realizes that the profession has been chosen inappropriately, the more benefit he will receive for himself and will not waste time.

The problem of choosing a profession is extremely important and difficult. There are many purely technological issues of choosing a profession that can only be solved by an experienced career guidance specialist.

So, a comprehensive approach to career guidance is necessary, which enables each student to consciously approach the choice of a profession.

Thank you, Valentin Vasilievich, for an interesting conversation and extremely useful information that will be useful to those who are faced with an important choice, on which their future life will depend.

From ourselves we want to add - dear readers, treat your choice with maximum responsibility. Don't let ingrained stereotypes or the thoughts of outsiders knock you off the right path. Listen to yourself, choose the profession that will bring you satisfaction and a sense of inner harmony, and material rewards for such work will not take long. From the bottom of our hearts we wish you success in self-determination!

Translation of the article by Ulyana Lysak

What should you pay attention to when choosing a profession in the first place?

- Choosing a profession is a very difficult and responsible issue in life. Your financial well-being, personal life, circle of friends, level of self-esteem, values ​​and interests, place of residence will depend on his decision.

Some professions cannot be mastered with certain shortcomings, which are called contraindications to the profession. This, for example, is an allergy to food, smells, poor health, fatigue, fear of blood, irascibility, lack of endurance, conflict and more. If, for example, you are allergic to food, you will not be able to work as a cook.

When choosing a profession, you need to decide on the requirements for it: no excessive workload or great physical activity, career growth, the possibility of creativity, high salary, communication with interesting people, high social significance, free time. If you are, for example, in poor health, you will not be able to perform work with great physical exertion.

How does the choice of a career depend on the financial capabilities of the family in which the child was born?

− When choosing a career, one should also take into account the fact that it is possible to move to study in another city or even a country. In this regard, it is easier and better for those whose children continue the path chosen by their parents. For example, there are entire dynasties of scientists, musicians, doctors, teachers, artists, journalists, actors, etc.

Very often, children of parents who are successful in something do not want to engage in their profession, wanting to master a completely different type of activity. Then they need to master the "unplowed field". In any case, you should not be upset, because a university graduate diploma in itself is not a guarantee of a successful career.

What should a child do if the parents insist on continuing the family dynasty?

- The child should listen to the opinion of the parents, and parents should prove why this particular profession is suitable for their child, and not another. If the child still does not like the choice of parents, then he should explain the reason, and give weighty arguments in favor of the future profession. The child also needs to enlist the support of a significant person for him, for example, grandparents, a class teacher.

What influences the choice of profession, career?

- Significant people can influence the choice of profession: parents, neighbor, teacher. And an authoritative acquaintance (idol), whom you want to be equal to, from whom you want to take an example.

How to choose the right profession so that it is interesting for the child, corresponds to his abilities and the capabilities of his parents?

− When choosing a profession, first of all, evaluate your abilities. To do this, remember your successes and failures. Which subjects were easy for you, and which were difficult? When did you feel the best, and when - among the lagging behind? What sciences are you inclined to: humanitarian, exact, natural, requiring physical or mental activity? Of course, one must not forget about the likelihood of misleading such a way of assessing one's own abilities. As you know, Einstein was considered a lagging student at school. We may also be unaware of true abilities, since our perception of them is more influenced by the teacher's assessments (not always objective), the approval or disapproval of the group. Although the opinion of others is still worth listening to. After all, if others constantly express similar judgments about the merits and demerits of a person, then perhaps they are right.

Is it worth considering the school where the child is studying when choosing a profession?

– Of course, it is worth it. If, for example, you study at a school with a linguistic bias, you should think about linking your future profession with languages. But are you ready to dedicate your life to languages? If you have been studying piano at a music school for 5 years, do you ever think about connecting your life with music?

What factors should be considered when choosing a profession?

− Today, a significant proportion of women work in low-paid jobs. They move up the corporate ladder more slowly than men. Many of them forced to combine work with family responsibilities. In most families, the responsibility for housekeeping and raising children is a woman's responsibility. Therefore, it is not surprising that women who have made a career and achieved a leadership position very often remain lonely. All this should be taken into account when choosing a career.

A successful career comes at the cost of a lot of effort. It is necessary to determine from the very beginning whether her burden will not be too heavy? In addition, one should not forget about the influence of cultural stereotypes. For example, if in the USA mostly men work as doctors and dentists, then in Russia the majority of doctors are women. The culture of modern society decisively determines to what extent one tries to find out whether a particular profession has a future, the degree of its demand in a particular region of the country.

Should you think about future employment when choosing a career?

– Of course, it is worth it. Not everyone can become President, just as the ambitious dream of the first flight to Jupiter will probably remain a dream for the time being. Even those professions that are currently in demand may be unnecessary in the future. Technology is advancing, displacing the routine work of a person, but at the same time eliminating jobs.

What do you need to know about your future profession?

- First, you need to find out what skills and practical skills are needed for your job. For example, speed of reaction, communication habits, good memory, one hundred percent vision, acute hearing or special training.

Secondly, you need to find out what the working conditions are: work indoors or outdoors, in a separate office or in a common room, with or without a uniform, with or without a standard, etc.

In the event that, after comparing the psychological, pedagogical and medical examination with its professional orientation, contraindications are found, the psychologist (professional consultant) must tactfully and convincingly explain to the adolescent (subject) the impossibility of his choice and recommend another profession. At the same time, it is desirable that the recommended profession does not run counter to the inclinations and abilities of the students.

What should parents do if the child began to study, but realized that he had chosen the wrong profession?

- It is worth talking to parents or the child himself with the class teacher of the group, teachers, dean. If pursuing higher education, it is worth talking to the dean, deputy dean, or teachers. In this situation, there are two options: either try to graduate from an educational institution, or pick up documents and look for a more suitable profession. There was a case in my practice when a girl entered the Pedagogical University on a budget, but realized that the profession of a teacher was not hers. And yet, the girl decided to finish her studies, because she realized that this was the only chance in her life to get a free higher education.

What tests will help determine the profession?

- Psychological tests are not absolutely accurate units of measurement like physical measures. Testing by itself does not bring any relief or benefit to the person. A test can only be useful if it allows you to draw the right conclusions. It is necessary only to determine the "strong" or "weak" side of the professional orientation of the person being tested, which will help him make the right choice in the future.

In the study of aptitudes and professional interests, the DDO-30 questionnaire, a professional horoscope, the questionnaire "contraindications to the profession", the questionnaire "requirements for the future profession", the questionnaire "expectations from the future profession" can be used. Once you have decided on a profession, you should decide on the choice of an educational institution.

Answer sheet, where answers are entered, on the basis of which the analysis is then done. Instructions for the questionnaire are available on the website test-method.ru

How to choose the right educational institution where you can get an education?

It is necessary to withstand the algorithm for choosing an educational institution:

1. Decide on a professional choice. In schools, career guidance classes are held from the 9th grade.
2. Find educational institutions that would produce such specialists and suit them by location and payment.

I want to wish good luck to the guys, to study with pleasure, not to make a mistake with the choice of profession, to become a professional in their field, because the whole future life depends on the choice of a career.

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A person's life goals determine the vector of his development, his future. It is an element that concentrates strength and energy on what is to be achieved. Goals that set the direction of your movement and your life.

Goals can be long-term, medium-term and short-term. Goals can be practical, related to our social life or professional activities, or they can be moral or psychological, aimed at developing certain traits, qualities or attitudes in our character. People set goals for themselves in all areas of life. But the central, defining ones are: “The life goals of a person” are the main, ultra-long-term goals. They contain the meaning of your life. They should “warm” you, make you move through life. And you need to choose them even before you start formulate and set goals more tangible.

Human life goals

Their choice is not easy! And this happens because of our preoccupation with the outer side of our existence, which does not allow us to pay attention to our own feelings. But it is in them that the key to our true desires is contained. By ignoring feelings, we create the ground for internal conflict, which can have extremely long and negative consequences.

If, for example, a person has to expend unreasonably much effort to achieve a certain goal, towards which he goes to the limit of his physical capabilities, if at the same time he is accompanied by prolonged psychological depression, if the body falls ill with serious inexplicable diseases, then this is a false goal. In pursuit of a false goal, you will either achieve nothing, or, having reached the goal, make sure that this is not necessary at all. Is it worth it to miss the unique chance given by life and spend precious time correcting mistakes? Despite the fact that life seems long, it passes very quickly and imperceptibly. Therefore, it is necessary to learn how to find exactly your goals that will bring happiness to you personally.

We are all individual, so a person's life goals should reflect his individuality. If you want to be successful in life, then you need to choose goals that are consistent with your values, your strengths, your passions, and your desired lifestyle. And already after, having felt the essence of their own long-term goals, a person is able to reach unprecedented heights in creative, professional and career growth, material well-being, personal life arrangement.

Many of us have been taught from childhood that success can only be achieved through hard work. And you also need to persistently go towards your goal, overcoming obstacles. One of the biggest misconceptions is that you have to fight for happiness, show perseverance, perseverance, overcome many obstacles, in general, win your place in the sun.

Man's delusion consists in the false belief: If I overcome obstacles, then there, ahead, happiness awaits me.". This is nothing more than an illusion. There is no happiness ahead! Many people, having achieved their goal with great difficulty, feel nothing but devastation. Where did this happiness go? Happiness comes while moving towards your goal. If a person is on his path, then he experiences happiness now, even if the goal is still ahead. Then life turns into a holiday. When the goal is reached, it will be doubly joy. However, the very movement towards its goal turns every day into a holiday. Moving towards someone else's goal always leaves the holiday in an illusory future. Achieving someone else's goal brings disappointment and devastation, but not happiness.

The purpose of a person in life is not determined by some temporary needs. It should answer the question: what do you want from life? What will make your life joyful and happy? Only this matters. Everything else can be considered a husk.

Finding a Life Purpose

Find one main, life purpose . Achieving it will pull the fulfillment of all other desires. You will not be able to determine the goal through analysis and reflection. Only your soul can identify the real purpose. Analysis is an activity of the mind. The soul cannot think. She can only see and feel. The task of the mind in the search for a goal is not to search. The mind will do this as usual, that is, by analyzing and building logical chains based on generally accepted stereotypes and clichés. If one's path could be determined in this way, all people would be happy.

The task of the mind is to pass through itself all external information, while paying special attention to the state of spiritual comfort. The mind should only make the installation: I am looking for something that will turn my life into a holiday. And then just let in external information and observe the feelings of the soul from the position of this setting.

An active search will turn up nothing. Don't worry, watch and wait. If there is a search setting, the necessary information will come by itself. At some point, you will receive some information that will arouse your keen interest. The main thing is that the mind at this moment does not climb with its thoughts, but simply pays attention to the state of spiritual comfort.

You can speed up the arrival of the necessary information yourself. To do this, it will be very useful to expand the circle of your interests. Go to places you haven't been before: museums, excursions, movies, hiking, the other side of town, a bookstore, anywhere. No need to actively seek, just expand the range of external information and observe.

Give yourself an indefinite time frame, don't pinch yourself in a time frame and do not make the search for a life purpose a duty. Just keep this mindset in mind: I'm looking for your calling, yourself in life I'm looking for something that will turn my life into a holiday.

Watch your feelings more carefully than you did before. Let this setup run in the background all the time. Pass any information that comes to you through a question filter: what do I feel about this, do I like it or not?

Sooner or later, you will receive some sign or information that will startle something inside: “Oh, I like this!” Think carefully about this information from all sides, carefully observing the state of peace of mind.

But finally, you managed to get rid of the temptation to think about the means, and you determined the goal. When there is a determination to have and to act in the name of achieving this goal, then the layer of your world will undergo an amazing transformation. And this is what will happen. You have freed yourself from the burden of decoys and breathed freely. You no longer have to force yourself to do things you don't feel like doing. You have given up the struggle for illusory happiness in the future and allowed yourself to have it here and now. Previously, you tried to fill the spiritual void with cheap surrogates. And now the mind has released the soul from the case, and an amazing feeling of lightness and freedom has appeared, as if spring has come, and you have awakened from a long winter hibernation. The painful feeling of oppression and burden disappeared. Agree, it is much more pleasant to move towards your own life goal, realizing that you have found inside yourself what you previously unsuccessfully tried to find in the outside world. Your mind has thrown away the unnecessary rubbish of other people's goals, abandoned useless thoughts about the means of achieving it, and simply let the necessary task into the layer of your world. The soul itself chose a toy and jumped up and down with joy and clapped its hands. You have cracked a false stereotype and allowed yourself to have, despite the imaginary inaccessibility of the goal. Therefore, doors that were previously closed were opened for you. Then the mind finally realized that the goal is really really achievable. Now you become happier and life will turn into a holiday, as a joyful soul will run hopping after the mind, which let the goal into the layer of its world. Soul and mind will merrily walk hand in hand along a smooth and pleasant road to happiness, which is already here and now.

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Wise people say: "Be careful what you wish for." This folk wisdom can be expanded to “be afraid of your goals,” since your future success largely depends on the choice of life goals. There's nothing worse than spending years climbing a ladder set against the wrong building of success. You can repeat someone else's success, but if you set false goals for yourself, then this external success will not bring joy. Choosing the right life goals largely determines your future.

Goals are divided into:

- short-term;

— Medium-term;

— Long-term.

The life goals of a person are long-term and highest priority tasks, which are largely related to what is really important for this particular person. If any of the life goals is imposed, then a person may not have enough enusiasm to bring it to life. And if it is still possible to achieve it, then the result will not bring any joy.

HUMAN LIFE GOALS

I can give my own example. Once upon a time, I entered graduate school and was full of enthusiasm to write and defend my PhD thesis. But the supervisor imposed on me a topic that was not interesting to me. As a result, the dissertation continued to choke more and more and it became more and more obvious that I clearly did not have enough fuse to defend my Ph.D. thesis. I did not drop out of graduate school simply because it was a legal way not to join the army. But defending a dissertation was clearly not included in the list of life goals. The real goal has turned into a false one.

In pursuit of a false goal, you risk wasting time and effort, which happened to me when writing a dissertation.

We are all very different, so the choice of life goals will be different for everyone. It is important for someone to travel and visit as many countries as possible. Other people are interested in settling somewhere in one place and arranging their life here as much as possible. When choosing life goals, you need to make an informed choice without regard to the opinions of others.

You must clearly answer for yourself the question of what you want from life. Choosing the right life goal is already half the battle. And your brain, like the most advanced GPS navigator, will look for ways to achieve your goals. Goals can be achieved if there is a will. But the main thing is that these goals should be “yours”.

Success in life has many components. See the wheel of life balance. These are health, family, career, money, self-development, friends, career growth and so on. In each of these areas of life you need to set specific goals. For example, work, it would seem, does not pretend to set any long-term life goals here, and yet we spend most of our active time at work and we need to set goals here. If only because if you find a job you like, you will not experience stress, but rather you will enjoy this work. And career growth will go uphill. Over time, money will follow.

Just like setting goals for your health. People who don't watch their diet, give up on their health, and don't exercise tend to give up their skates prematurely. But that's not the only negative. Poor health (for example, being overweight) seriously affects the quality of life. Last summer, I personally had such an uncomfortable problem as hemorrhoids. I think one of the reasons is being overweight. As a result, I visited the proctologist's table. I mean, I wouldn't wish that on even my worst enemy. Even a minor ailment radically breaks the quality of life and, if not crosses out interest in life goals, then at least greatly spoils the mood.

To find suitable life goals, you need to be able to listen to your own feelings. Sometimes we understand that this or that goal is ours on an intuitive level. The problem of many people is that in the daily hustle and bustle they have forgotten how to listen to their own feelings and quickly run after false goals and they don’t even have time to think about what they want from life.

Buying an apartment is a crucial step in the life of every person. After all, even a small living space will cost a decent amount of money. It's good if the buyer already knows what he wants to see a new apartment. However, this is rare, and the decision is often made spontaneously. How to buy a dream apartment?

Realtors have provided a few tips for our site that will help the buyer not only make the right choice, but also make a list of requirements for the place of their dreams. So, what are the main points you need to pay attention to when buying an apartment?

First step. Where to start choosing?

In order not to be disappointed in the purchase, you need to determine in advance the purpose of the acquisition and the amount of money that you are willing to invest in real estate. The answer to this question will depend on the area in which you need to look for an apartment, its size and floor, class of the house. The greatest difficulty arises when choosing a region. A person tries to find an apartment in a place where he is well oriented, if the purchase is not tied to the work or study of the client. If he nevertheless decides to settle in an unfamiliar area, then the main criterion for choosing will be the infrastructure of the place.

Second step. Old or new?

Unfortunately, this question leads many buyers to a standstill. What to choose - a new building in which no one lived, and the price for it is cheaper, or secondary housing, but with which unforeseen problems may arise? The choice depends on the financial capabilities of the buyer. If there is a limitation in money, but there is time to wait, then the best option is a new building. Get a house of modern construction with new communications and a contingent of neighbors about your social status. However, there are some nuances - you will have to additionally invest in repairs.

Third step. Inspection of the acquired property.

It is better to inspect the apartments during the day. You should take your camera with you. Taking pictures, it is possible to evaluate the apartments the next day or show them to loved ones. When inspecting the property, pay attention to its layout: if there are two rooms, then it is better to be isolated; the room itself should be well lit; the presence of a dressing room, a hall. Looking around the apartment, you should collect information about the neighbors with whom you have to live.