What every person needs to know. What knowledge should a modern person have in the modern world
1. Flowers that can be given to a man:
chrysanthemums, roses, carnations, delphiniums, orchids, bamboo, callas, lilies, anthuriums, gladioli, tulips, irises, gerberas, plumeria, heliconias, daisies, sunflowers.
Don't forget about colors when giving men flowers. Such colors are welcomed in colors: purple, burgundy, white, blue, green.
Cases when it is customary to give flowers to a man:
1) Film premiere;
2) Concert premiere;
3) Publication of the book;
4) Publication of the article;
5) Serious discovery;
6) Birthday;
7) Presentation of the award;
8) Sports record.
It is believed that it is better for the boss to give green or emerald callas. It is better to give composition to professional florists.
2. Handshake
It is not customary to shake hands with women, but if she extends her hand first, you should shake it, but not as hard as men. But your handshake shouldn't be weaker than a woman's or she'll think you're weak.
The eldest gives his hand first, the teacher or mentor - to the student, the boss - to the subordinate. You should not change the rules of the game, even though there are no castes in our society, you can cause rejection and misunderstanding among others.
When shaking hands, look into the eyes and smile a little as a sign of friendly disposition.
3. According to the rules of etiquette, a bowl of soup should be tilted away from you while eating!
Some sources write that it is impossible to tilt at all.
4. Men should ALWAYS get up when a lady leaves the table!
5. There is nothing wrong when a husband calls his wife "bunny", and she is his "bunny".
However, these affectionate nicknames are not meant for prying ears!
When not alone, it is better to call each other by their first names.
6. Sometimes it is very nice to drink a drink through a straw.
But in such cases, you should not suck it out to the last drop, as a piercing gurgle will introduce some dissonance into the general conversation.
7. Here are the basic modern rules of etiquette in a restaurant:
A) Cut large pieces into smaller ones;
b) When a dish is eaten with the hands, there is no need to hunch over and intrude with the elbows into the neighbor's space;
c) You can’t blow on hot food, you need to wait until it cools down;
d) While eating with your hands, it is better to bite off a little bit;
e) Use a tissue and do not lick your fingers;
e) Always blot your mouth with a tissue;
g) Never wipe your mouth with your hand or speak with your mouth full;
h) Even if everyone around eats with their hands, it is quite acceptable to eat with a fork and knife;
i) Never put your phone on the table.
8. Chewing gum in public and during conversation is considered vulgar!
The habit of chewing chewing gum exposes us precisely in ignorance of the rules of decency!
9. It is considered the height of bad manners to be distracted by your watch, mobile phone or notebook during a conversation.
Even if you are tired and bored, don't show it!
10. On the stairs:
If a man and a woman are on the stairs, then when going up, the man must leave the woman behind him, and when going down, it is necessary on the contrary, so that the woman is in front. But if the stairs are too narrow, steep or dark, then the man should go ahead of the woman.
A woman, walking up the stairs, must choose the side with the railing. She may not move away from the railing if she meets a man on the way, even if this is contrary to the rules of right-hand traffic.
A man, while on the stairs, should give way to women, the elderly and children at the railing.
If a man goes up the stairs, holding a woman by the arm, then he should move with his body just enough to serve as a sufficient support for the woman, but at the same time not move impetuously and not pull her forward, the man should behave the same way when going down the stairs with a woman.
Our ancestors thought that the world stands on four elephants, and those on a tortoise. But today you can hardly afford such a level of knowledge about the world without being branded as an uneducated person. The site has prepared answers to questions that everyone should know.
Why is the sky blue?
When the sun's rays come through the atmosphere, they encounter barriers in the air - molecules and dust particles. The blue sky is most often due to the fact that the air more scatters light with a short wavelength. This is the wavelength of this color.
Why do women live longer than men?
As scientists from the University of Uppsala found out, this is due to the fact that men lose Y chromosomes in white blood cells with age (women do not have them).
Why is hair electrified?
It's all about static electricity. Objects around us interacting receive an electric charge. The same happens with hair. The more often they rub against each other, the more electrified.
Why does England drive on the left?
The English have been driving on the left side of the road since the 18th century. There are two versions of why this happened. The first is Roman. According to her, in ancient Rome there was a left-hand traffic. Due to the fact that they conquered the British Isles in 45, the way of traveling on the roads may have changed. The second is sea, based on which the ships had to bypass other ships on the left side.
Where does the rainbow come from?
Colored stripes appear in the sky after rain. Drops act as a kind of prism and break the light.
Why does hair turn gray?
According to research by scientists from the New York University Medical Center, the cause of gray hair is a lack of Wnt protein. But soon people will be able to avoid and prevent graying. This will be possible if the Wnt protein is subjected to genetic changes.
Dictionary of an educated person:
Authentic- real, real.
Eclecticism- mixing, combining heterogeneous styles, ideas, views. Most often used to describe clothing and interior design.
Assimilation- the fusion of the language, culture and national identity of the two peoples.
Profanation- Distortion of something by abusive treatment or attitude.
frustration- a depressed state of a person. It happens due to failure and lack of self-confidence.
Seditious- one that contains something illegal, forbidden.
Euphemism- a neutral word that is used in speech to replace words and expressions that are considered rude or obscene.
plot- the content of a literary work and the events depicted in it.
A priori- knowledge obtained independently of experience and the study of facts.
Ephemeral- something fleeting, temporary or ghostly.
Life is a funny thing. No one will hand you a textbook for adulthood with a set of rules and a list of all the necessary skills that you will have to master in life.
In some mysterious way, you yourself must understand that you need to earn more than you spend, and it is better not to wear a fluffy mohair sweater to a job interview.
Therefore, we have compiled our own instructions for survival in the modern world and listed the skills that no adult can do without.
1. Accept criticism with gratitude
Most people can't stand being pointed out wrong or being told they could have done better. However, being able to suppress emotions and focus on the information that they are trying to convey to you is a truly unique talent. Criticism can be fair or unfair, but let your mind decide, not your wounded ego.
2. Sincerely ask for forgiveness
All people make mistakes, but not everyone knows the art of sincerely asking for forgiveness.
Apologies are not measured by quantity and cannot be good or bad - they must be sincere. And besides, when you apologize, you must explain exactly how you are going to avoid repeating an unpleasant situation in the future.
Here is a six-step algorithm to help you ask for forgiveness the right way:
- Don't put off apologizing.
- Apologize only in person.
- Explain what happened.
- Show that you will make every effort to ensure that what happened does not happen again.
- Sorry.
- If possible, try to make amends with real deeds.
3. Manage your time well
It is unlikely that such a happy moment will come in your life when you do not have to balance between a bunch of problems at work and in your personal life. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary for you to master time management - otherwise you will constantly feel at the limit of your strength.
Perhaps the most important rule of time management is that you should only do one thing at a time. Research shows that the habit of multitasking is highly unproductive because your brain wastes energy in the process of switching from one task to another.
Also, it would be wise of you to limit your hours of work. Decades ago, Henry Ford came to the conclusion that labor productivity begins to decline when employees work more than 40 hours a week. Other studies show that the productivity of those who work about 60 hours a week decreases after only three weeks of such a regimen.
4. Know how to say "no"
Most of us are afraid to say “no” for fear of letting other people down. But if you are already swamped with work and a colleague asks for an hour to help with a project report, then the answer “Yes, of course” is far from the best option.
It may sound like a cliché, but the ability to say “no” at the right time can save you a lot of time and save you from feelings of guilt, confusion, unnecessary obligations and promises, stress, and other troubles of human communication.
5. Put yourself in someone else's shoes
Empathy is at the core of every human interaction. People who are not able to empathize and show interest in others - that is, listen to the interlocutor and put themselves in his place - often suffer from narcissism.
6. Communicate in body language
Your body can tell you everything it needs to know about you before you even open your mouth.
Experts identify special techniques that will help you win the sympathy of others with the help of body language. For example, do not break eye contact with your interlocutor even after he finishes talking. And be careful not to touch your face too much - it will look like you're lying or very nervous.
You can also read other people's body language to understand what they are thinking or feeling. For example, if during a conversation they copy your facial expressions, then most likely they enjoy talking with you. If they smile, but there are no wrinkles around the eyes, then the smile may be fake.
7. Make Friends Wherever You Go
A good way to make a friend in the adult world is to be the first to trust so the other can open up to you. Research shows that such a “first step” evokes sympathy, affection, and helps build close and friendly relationships. Another surprisingly easy way to make friends is to spend more time with the people you want to be friends with. According to the "mere exposure effect", we often like people or things we've encountered before.
8. Repair clothes yourself
You should learn how to sew buttons to the shirt collar and darn holes that can be easily planted on the sleeve by catching on the edge of the table. Knowing how to handle a needle will save you a lot of money.
9. Speak at least one foreign language
Learning a foreign language will open up a completely different way of thinking for you. You will be able to see and appreciate the riches of those corners of our planet that you did not even know about before.
10. Remember that money loves an account.
Make sure your income exceeds expenses.
It would also be wise to set aside part of your income for a rainy day so that in case of unforeseen circumstances you have enough money for several months.
11. Master the Basics of Photoshop
You don't need to hire a professional to retouch the photo you want to put on your site - you can do it yourself with a few simple basic functions of the program.
12. Enjoy being alone
You will not frighten an adult with loneliness - he can spend at least a whole day alone with himself and not go crazy from a lack of communication.
13. Learn to speak in public
Speaking confidently in front of a large audience is a skill worth acquiring. This will help you attract the attention of a wide range of people and leave a lasting impression about yourself.
14. Master the Art of Negotiation
If you're negotiating a salary - which you can and should do - then the best way to get what you want and still leave a good impression of yourself is to ask for a salary in the range of the desired rate and a little higher. For example, if you want to receive 70 thousand rubles, then you should ask for a salary of 70 to 80 thousand rubles.
15. Cook your own simple meals
Master at least five simple dishes. Learn how to cook them without a cookbook and you'll look like a culinary genius wherever you go.
16. Know how to keep up small talk
The ability to strike up an interesting conversation has never stopped anyone - whether it's a frivolous flirtation with a beauty from a bar or expanding business ties at a conference.
One of the main rules of a casual conversation is to show interest in the interlocutor and allow him to tell as much as possible about himself. Another good tactic is to emphasize the dignity of the interlocutor so that after talking with you, he grows in his own eyes.
17. Don't be afraid to ask for help
There is no shame in asking for advice or help, especially at work.
Many studies even claim that you can grow in the eyes of colleagues as an expert if you ask them for advice. And this seems to be true, since people are flattered that you turned to them in the first place.
18. Meet the opposite sex without fear
Perhaps, any normal person is horrified by the need to approach the person they like and just start a conversation.
But there are ways to manage your anxiety and reduce the risk of you making a complete idiot of yourself.
One study suggests that men prefer to take direct action, such as announcing at the door, "You're really cute - can I buy you a cocktail?" Women, on the contrary, are more fond of questions that require a detailed answer, for example: “What do you think about this group?”.
Only a few of the respondents admitted that they prefer the standard "tackles" - so they are best avoided, no matter how witty they may seem to you.
19. Wake up early in the morning
Pull yourself together and develop your own plan of action in order to force yourself to wake up on time in the morning and leave the house.
In fact, the secret to a good morning is how you spend the evening before bed, so try to relax before bed, such as taking a hot shower or meditating.
In the morning, experts, as a rule, advise that after the first alarm call, press the "repeat" and sleep a little more. We advise you to press "repeat", but instead of sleeping, turn on the light and use the time before the second alarm for a short gymnastics.
20. Get a driver's license
If you live in a big city, then you probably enjoy all the benefits of public transport.
But when you leave the city, the ability to drive a car well becomes a vital skill. It can open up a whole world for you.
If you have not yet received the right, stop relying on the fact that your loved ones or relatives will always drop you to the right place. Take this decisive step towards adulthood and pass on the rights.
Endlessly biting yourself over your own failures is a road to nowhere.
Instead, treat them the way you would treat a friend or colleague failing. For example, you can remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes and that it doesn't make you a bad person at all.
1. Learn to formulate a thought
The ability to speak fluently will help convey your point of view to the interlocutor and even convey emotional experiences. Knowing the meaning of the terms that are often used in your environment will make you feel more comfortable.
2. Look at the world from a different perspective
The basic rules of etiquette and NLP should be your starting point. NLP teaches you to look at the world through the eyes of the interlocutor in order to understand the motives of his behavior. By your respectful attitude towards people, you create a mirror reaction and even an unconscious desire to imitate you.
3. Be curious
The reluctance to read more than three sentences and the fear of long texts distort the perception of information. Understand that the world is multifaceted. We can talk about the problem only after we read at least a couple of independent sources and draw our own conclusions.
4. Don't judge others
Relationships cannot be squeezed into clichéd situations. Instead of labeling yourself "stupid" or "greedy", try to cold-bloodedly work on your relationship. You will understand that for a well-done “work” as a wife, you will definitely receive a long-awaited award in the form of a fur coat.
5. Become a role model
An English proverb says: “Do not raise children, they will still look like you. Educate yourself!" In any case, the child will absorb the habits and demeanor of the parents. Engage in self-improvement, and you will notice the best manifestations of yourself in your child.
6. Get inspired by the beautiful
Any manifestation of art develops imaginative thinking and memory. And of course, teaches us beauty. An erudite person needs to understand the masterpieces of world literature, music, cinema and fine arts, the ideas of which remain relevant at the moment. Trust me, you will have a lot of fun!
7. Refresh your knowledge
The purpose of high school is to lay the foundation of knowledge and skills. Of course, not the entire program of modern education can be considered practical. But you simply must know the multiplication table, the history of your own country, understand geography and grammar.
8. Make a Promise to Hippocrates
There are about ten accident situations. Noticing the victim, you will definitely call an ambulance. But there are still 30 minutes before the arrival of the medical team. By mastering simple first aid skills, you can save the life of not only others, but also yourself.
9. Learn to stand up for your rights
State laws and rights shape relations in society. Therefore, you need to know them. Of course, there are specially trained people – lawyers – to solve specific situations and issues. But everyday (for example, in the status of a motorist) - every man for himself.
This list can be replenished endlessly, because each new day brings new “surprises” that you need to be prepared for. Do not stop there, study more useful literature, and you will understand that the world is beautiful the way it is. All because you see it as it is - full of possibilities and wonders.
Text: Anna Kuznetsova
Many modern devices are indeed extremely complex, so it would be the height of arrogance to reach into their insides with a hammer and pliers. But this does not apply to all situations. Very often the problem turns out to be so simple, and its solution lies so close to the surface, that only our inner conviction that “I can’t do it” prevents us from seeing and solving it. Many people do not even approximately imagine the device and principles of operation of the things around them and, most importantly, do not even seek to know them.
The ability to use your memory
Judging by the speed with which note-takers, note-books, telephone books, calendars and planners multiply, the memory of a person of the future will gradually die out as unnecessary. Already now it is rare to find a friend who knows at least a few significant phone numbers from memory. And we are being replaced by a generation unable to learn a simple poem and remember the dates of the most important historical events. And really, why do they need it when there is Google?
Cooking at home skill
I firmly believe that the harm to humanity from cheap fast food and the presence in our kitchens can be commensurate with the damage from the last few wars. Yes, it is very convenient and fast, but then you don’t have to complain about obesity, diabetes, stomach ulcers and a whole bunch of related diseases. The ability to cook for yourself is not a matter of taste or economy, it is a matter of survival.
The ability to let go of excess
The ability to give up unnecessary purchases, the insane and thoughtless pursuit of new models and brands is not so much a sign of a lack of financial resources, but a sign of mental maturity. Tell all those who change the model of their smartphone and car every time, was it really necessary? And maybe it would be better to spend these funds on more pleasant and useful things? For example, to attend a foreign language course or travel.
The less money we spend on junk, the more we can then spend on the people around us and getting new experiences.
Ability to expand your horizons
"I'm a programmer, I don't need it." "I'm an athlete, this is too much for me." "I'm a musician, I'm only interested in music."
Have you ever heard such statements? Yes, our century is the century of narrow specialists. But you can’t artificially limit the scope of your interests only to what is necessary for professional growth. After all, work is only a part of life, and not the biggest one either. Try to always strive to learn as much as possible, even when it seems not very useful to you at the moment. You never know what will come in handy tomorrow.
survival skill
We live in such a calm time that the ability to independently light a fire, navigate the stars and find water may seem like a monstrous anachronism. However, these and other survival skills may well come in handy one day. And it doesn’t have to be somewhere on a camping trip or travel. Non-standard situations happen to people quite often, and sometimes quite unpredictably. You can get lost on a walk, your car can stall on a winter night road, and no one is safe from natural disasters. It is always better to be prepared for emergency situations in advance than to shrug helplessly later.
Ability to handle long tasks
The frantic pace of modern life dictates its own rules to us. We try to react quickly, make decisions quickly and want to see immediate results of our work. However, there are often problems in life that can take months or even years of persistent effort to resolve. The ability to work “in the long run”, to patiently wait for the sprouts of your business to sprout, is far from being inherent in all people today. No, there is nothing wrong with a quick reaction and focus on results here and now, but sometimes it is patience and perseverance that is the main condition for achieving success in life.
What important qualities and skills would you add to this list? What does a modern person need to know and be able to do in order not to be branded as a slob and clumsy?