Some people are meant to be temporary in our lives, and that's okay. Any person who comes into our lives is necessary for us for something.

Every person comes into our lives not by chance.
All the situations that we go through are our lessons, and people are teachers, so that we grow and reveal Love deeper and wider within ourselves. Understanding this allows you to perceive any relationship from a position of love.

Your man appeared in your life to teach you love, self-acceptance and gratitude. Without these components there will be no harmonious relationship, because it is impossible to give another person what you don’t have.

Remember– you can look at your man like in a mirror. He is your reflection, which shows what you lack or what you have in excess.

Many women have been waiting for years for a prince on a white horse, worthy of their Highness, without thinking about whether they are worthy of that same prince.

Any man who has ever come into your life, is present or will appear in the future is worthy of you. He came precisely to you and precisely at the moment when he was most needed.

It is a fact, which you just need to understand and... accept. I came with a good purpose - to show you where there is an internal block that limits your Strength and your Love, sometimes it is difficult to see it yourself, but by seeing it you can correct it.

So, are you ready to free yourself from your inner blocks?

Then we'll diagnose the problem itself.

These same reasons will work in reverse for men.

The man is jealous

Your sexuality is not worked out. This situation can be corrected: it is this energy that helps develop creative abilities. Create!

Man is a tyrant

You have no idea where your personal boundary is, beyond which you become a victim. And such a man shows it clearly, through humiliation and pain. A tyrant teaches a woman to respect herself and forces her to defend her border. Respect yourself!

Male addict (alcoholic, gambling addict, drug addict, etc.)

In such a situation, there are two options. Either dominance over a man, or the position of an unfortunate victim. In the first option, a woman must learn femininity and accept her soft nature. The situation in the second case will be corrected by understanding that only you are responsible for your life, only everything that happens in it depends on you. Respect yourself and grow up!

The man is a mama's boy

Women usually say “I myself”, I’m a businesswoman... If you know everything perfectly well and can do it yourself, then why do you need a man? What to educate and change? Or to “saw”? So you get a weak-willed comrade who can tolerate you like this. People don't need to be re-educated. This is a fight against windmills. You need to learn to hear and trust yourself, your desires and, of course, your man. Hear yourself and your loved one! Trust!

The man is a windbag

Lots of words and promises, but zero deeds. It's simple - a man teaches you to value yourself. He promises, does not fulfill and promises again... And you believe, suffer and believe again... Value yourself!

These are the most striking and typical behavioral scenarios in problematic relationships. There are many more of them in life. But in all of them there is one general rule - in any relationship a woman should put her development in the foreground.

This does not mean that “I do what I want.” First of all, this means that I am returning to my feminine nature, I love myself, I appreciate life, and I came into this world to be happy!

In order to understand whether I am developing or not in a relationship, look at your partner. At the moment, this is the only ideal man for you.

Now let's ask ourselves a question:
“Am I worthy of someone else? Will that same prince be able to love me?”

By answering them, you will see the direction where you need to move. We remember - by changing ourselves, we change the whole world. Close surroundings for sure.

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Should I break up a problematic relationship?

Here we can only say one thing - without solving your internal problems, you will not solve problems in your relationship. So they will move with you from one partner to another. Sometimes in an easier version, and sometimes in a more complex one, but always with you.

By drawing conclusions and making changes, you have a great opportunity to break the endless circle you are running in and make your relationship better. Yes, often this happens through the fear of losing oneself and the pain of inevitable mistakes.

And the result is worth it– a happy, harmonious relationship in which two beloved and loving people become closer and closer every day, help and appreciate each other.

Develop yourself, build your relationships and remember - harmonious relationships are a constant increase in harmony in yourself. Every minute process of development and growth. You can get the most useful tips in our video trainings https://daoshakti.com/video-training-idealnyeotnoshenia/

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. We usually don’t pay attention to the number of lonely people until we somehow find ourselves among them. So you lived, lived, did not grieve, and all the time someone surrounded you: now parents, now children, friends, acquaintances, loved ones... And suddenly...
How long can you live without communication? All alone? Hour? Two? Day? A week? So that it doesn’t weigh you down, doesn’t press you down and doesn’t make you unhappy... I can’t stand it for long...

It’s strange: when there is someone next to you, you somehow see, sense, feel everything around you differently... And the snow seems somehow special to you, and the rain doesn’t wet you, and the wind invigorates... And when no one - not even the sun makes anyone happy... And the dark spots on it become somehow blatantly ugly, and the head hurts, and the heart aches, and the mood does not rise above zero...

Why do we necessarily need someone to brighten up these painful moments of inner turmoil and fill our lives with meaning? Why can’t we figure out our own conditions? After all, by and large, the world is our ideas about it. If you change your ideas, the world will change!

I change them, I change them! But for some reason I definitely need a witness who would record these changes, or simply be present at the same time... Why?

I don’t know why! Needed, that's all! Without him, everything is somehow dull and gray, and I don’t need it at all. Laziness or what? How can you prepare a three-course dinner when you are alone, and there is a sausage and a glass of yogurt in the refrigerator? You’ll get another crust of bread, and that’s it, nice thing. Why bother, cook, fry, steam. I grabbed something quickly and was ready for work and defense.

It's another matter if someone is nearby. At this point, God himself ordered us to prepare something delicious. You can cook borscht or fry cutlets. To please and enjoy eating some delicacy together.

It’s the same in life. This “someone” is necessary to cook something, to strain, to make something out of your own life, because he is a witness, he can evaluate, he can share with you joy and sadness, if necessary. From his participation there is less sadness and more joy. Have you tried it? Yes, you all know this! And of course, internally, do not be at all proud of your loneliness if it happens to you sometimes.

But it’s also not worth falling into panic and hibernation, giving up on yourself and giving in to despondency over your imperfections. Because the point here is not perfection, but the fact that during this period of your life you need solitude! “It is destined in the highest council...” But why do you need it now - figure it out for yourself!

Maybe so you can learn to be yourself. Or maybe they should be able to appreciate others and not throw away real feelings and friends. Surely, it was given to you for self-improvement and soul-searching. Dig deeper, and suddenly you will find a treasure in your soul that you didn’t even suspect about, carried away by the pursuit of imaginary values...

To find something, you have to lose something. You can't say more precisely. What do you miss most in life? Now is the chance to understand this. Just don't rush. If you hurry, you'll make yourself laugh...

We are in such a hurry to return to the state of “with someone”, we are so afraid of uncertainty and non-compliance with general statistical standards of life, where there should always be someone next to us, dear and warm, that we are ready to accept for him anyone more or less identifiable as "yours." Similar and recognizable.

Only before we even have time to fill a new salt shaker to understand our soul mate, we suddenly realize that this is not a soul mate at all. And we simply cannot handle the combined pound of salt that we definitely need to eat with her.

We also love to sort things out. We dismiss any connections that are not suitable for us, without even bothering to taste them. We’ve come up with ideals for ourselves and run around with them like we’re carrying a sack. But ideals, in principle, do not exist, because we are all living people, and nothing human is alien to us!

We need any person who comes into our lives for something. And accepting his presence in our lives with gratitude, we will learn to understand why he came. Perhaps to bring us joy or self-confidence, information or a lesson, to help or hinder us, to strengthen our character and develop our soul, or maybe to test our strength and try to destroy us? Figure it out! For this you have a head and a heart, a body and intuition. But in any case, this gift must be accepted from life with gratitude.

We buy into our fears and fall into our own traps. And we think, proud people, that we learn from the mistakes of others. In fact, a person can only learn something by stepping on his own rake.

Other gardeners - lovers of such rakes in the same enviably constant version will have to experience more than a dozen on their cast-iron foreheads until the true meaning of the events happening to them reaches them.

And if I free my speech from allegories and put it more simply, then in order to reduce trauma in such an important and necessary matter for every person as searching for “someone,” you need to follow just a few simple rules:

1. Be yourself.

2. Don't rush.

3. Be grateful to life for what it gives him at the moment.

That's all! It seems so simple, even elementary, banal and known to everyone. Just try to do this in practice! How many reservations, conditions, various obstacles will immediately creep out in abundance from various cracks in order to complicate everything, ruin and vulgarize.

Still, I'll try. After all, no one can do this for me. And if there is no one next to me now, it means that I have not yet learned to put these basic rules of life into practice...

I know that you are somewhere, my only, dearest person in the world. I'm coming to you, I'm waiting for you. For a long time. Patiently going through the rosary of events and dates, faces and touches. Peering into the trembling space of our invisible interaction, imbuing it with the bright thirst for our connection, I am filled with confidence and love. And I burn like a star in the sky. To make it easier for you to see me. And you are still not there... Where is you, my sun?

We meet people for a reason. There is always some reason why someone comes into our life and leaves it. And the hardest thing is to realize that some people are destined to be with us only for a short time.

People who come and quickly leave our lives are usually those who open us to new opportunities and ways of growth and development.

We don't want to let these people go because we start to get used to them. But we don't realize that some people are destined to be temporary in our lives, no matter how much we wish otherwise.

“Not everything has to become something beautiful and lasting. Some people come into your life to show you what is right and wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better about yourself, or to simply be someone you can walk with at night and pour out your feelings. soul. Not everyone will stay forever, but we must keep going and be grateful to them for what they gave us.", - writer Emery Allen.

I remember my most vivid acquaintances and now I understand why each person came into my life, and how they influenced who I am today. I shared my deepest thoughts, fears, secrets and dreams with people who were no longer in my life. I don’t regret it, because at that moment it was exactly what I wanted to do.

It always seemed amazing to me that our lives intersect with the lives of so many people, and even if you have known someone for only a short time, you can influence their life and their story. It's very exciting to look at it all from this point of view.

The sooner we realize that not everyone is meant to be a part of our lives, the easier it will be for us to dive into new relationships and value time with a certain person, allowing them to leave when the time is right. We must make the most of the time we have with each other and focus on the present. Let go of expectations, assumptions and enjoy as much communication with people as possible.

“I see a lot of people in unstimulating relationships - not just between guys and girls. Many people find themselves in stagnant friendships. If people were less afraid of ending things, they would get more out of life...You meet the right person at the right time and they fill something in your life. You fill something into it. But there is a limit to this,” singer Laura Marling.

If you lose someone from your life, don't lose yourself.

Always remember that just because some people are temporary in your life, it doesn't make the memories and experiences you have with them any less important.

So, why do we feel joy next to some people, irritation with others, attraction with others, and melancholy with others? What causes such different emotions?

Because each of those we meet along the way came for a reason. He came to help us. And each one carries its own task and emotion for us.

The whole point is that we are a single organism. Humanity. I was not the first to tell you about this. This is the basis of many philosophical worldviews.

And we attract to ourselves those “cells” of a single human organism that we need. Of course, a single human organism is controlled from above, you can call it God, but for the convenience of the theory about the organism, let's say - by a Single Brain.

The body itself is not aware of this control. Just like our body is not aware of how it breathes and how it digests food. This is controlled by the brain. So in a single humanity, where each of us is a “cell”, we do not understand why and how events happen, but the Brain knows exactly what it is doing.

Sometimes these people “treat” things that hurt. Sometimes with love. It all depends on the “disease”. The most painful things to treat are getting stuck in illusions and pride. These two diagnoses call people into our lives who begin to destroy our attitudes, principles, and outlook on life. It's very painful. The person begins to grumble: “Why do I need all this? What have I done? Why me?" But if you understand the whole process as a whole, pain can be avoided. If you are grateful to those who came to “treat” you, the “treatment” will be faster and more effective.

So, if in your life there are: aggressors, people with opposite views on life, and with an active life position, i.e. they will not remain silent, people who hinder your progress, humiliate you, educate you, etc. - you are sick with pride. Doctors have been sent to you. And you are wrong to think that “doctors” are pleased with their “work”. They do this unconsciously, sometimes genuinely wondering why you are so unpleasant to them.

Pride is cured by acceptance. By the way, as a person with extensive experience with pride, I can say that acceptance is even better medicine than forgiveness. I recently released a course, half of which is dedicated to acceptance practices, and they work simply amazing! Moreover, all you need to do is listen to meditations.

Don't forget that you, in turn, are also doctors for other people. These are our common lessons.

The second painful lesson, as I already said, is illusion. We are accustomed to considering life as we have imagined it for ourselves. Those. in essence, we begin to break away from the general organism, to build a special, fantastic world around ourselves. This is exactly how cancer cells behave, by the way. The One Brain will be forced to try to bring you back to reality. It was originally conceived as a state of freedom and love. But we remain in it only in infancy. Then we begin to actively invent non-existent worlds.

As soon as you have created an illusion for yourself, people are sent to you who can destroy it. For example, you read novels and believed that people should be faithful to each other. Moreover, they believed so strongly that you cannot imagine a relationship where even the shadow of betrayal could flash. All. A “landing force” of traitors has already been sent to you. They will "teach" you until you understand. Anything can happen in life. Life cannot be limited. Relationships are part of development. Everything can be forgiven. And this happens with any illusion if it becomes vital for you. If you cannot imagine happiness without her.

Of course, everyone would like to be joyful, rich and healthy. But if these qualities are too significant for you, “doctors” will come and destroy your illusions.

Because the world cannot be predicted. It is based on freedom of choice and therefore changes constantly. Freedom of choice does not only mean yours. You must respect each person's freedom of choice. And this means not experiencing negative emotions when another person chooses to act one way and not another. He has the right to do so. And they will also send “doctors” to him.

And these endless treatments will continue as long as it takes for you to understand - they're looking after you. You help the united body of humanity grow. Grow and develop. You are a cell of a single organism in which everything is going right, despite the fact that it seems to you, the cell, that you could arrange everything much better. Despite the fact that to you, a cell that does not see the whole body and does not suspect how it works, it seems that you could become different, better, bigger, stronger... Until you understand that you are already perfection. That you are in the right place. That all you need to do is follow your heart, consider those around you, and love everything around you, because that is what reality is. When you learn this, then the desired prosperity will come.

The people “sent to us” come in several types.

1. Directly doctor. Ambulance. It is called in emergency cases, when a person hears neither intuition, nor signals from the outside, nor the heart, when he is so immersed in his illusions that he can only be pulled out by a “blow to the head.” In general, they call an ambulance. The majority of the world's population prefers this method of treatment, alas.

2. Castle Man. A person suddenly appears next to you, whom you cannot figure out. It is incomprehensible to you, but interesting. He is not always likable; sometimes the castle man is annoying. You are trying with all your might to find the key to him, to understand his motives, his thoughts. Such people are sent to us when the time has come for spiritual growth, new relationships, new achievements. The time has come to go beyond the boundaries of your own world.

3. Key Man. These are the people around whom you discover new horizons in yourself. You suddenly discover that you are not shy about singing loudly on the street. That you can think outside the box. That you have goals and dreams. That you, it turns out, know how to be brave (cowardly, aggressive, etc. - it doesn’t matter what exactly you discover, the main thing is that it’s new to you). Such people are sent to us when the time has come to get to know ourselves more deeply.

4. Alarm clock man. People of high spiritual level. Not necessarily gurus or saints. But these are high vibrating people. You feel out of place around them. You get lost, like in front of a teacher at school. Either you feel good around him, or he starts to irritate you. And the longer you are near the “alarm clock”, the more transformations are triggered in your personality. Insights dawn on you. You suddenly understand something that you thought you always knew – in a new way. You change your attitude towards ordinary things. You begin to look at many things differently. You wake up. Moreover, the “alarm clock” does not always do something for this. He might just live next door. But more often those who become “alarm clocks” are...

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Nothing is by chance.

In this world where we are lucky enough to live, every meeting and chance acquaintance serves a specific purpose.

Sometimes we need people to awaken us and help change the direction of our lives; sometimes - to cheer us up and remind us who we are on this earth. And sometimes these are the ones that we meet only for a moment.

Ironically, we don't have to know the purpose of every person we meet, but we do have to remain open to whatever each new encounter brings.

Sometimes it is worth looking at the whole world as an interweaving of threads - silver or red, each of which reflects a meeting with a specific person, which may not even have happened yet.

Our whole life is interaction with each other. And although modern technologies, the Internet, and social networks are trying to convince us that this interaction can be minimized, something changes in our minds when we understand that everything in life happens for a reason.

Not all meetings need to be long; sometimes they can only last a moment. Maybe to detain you so you don't get into an accident, or to meet potential love. Sometimes the Universe sends us people to help us in our lives, even if they don't become something important to us.

And although we cannot predict it, we can prepare ourselves for these life surprises.

People who need to wake us up.

These are the ones who come for a long time. Sometimes these are our partners, kindred spirits. These are the ones who completely change our lives.

People who help remind us who we are.

Sometimes along the path of life we ​​begin to lose ourselves. In the daily bustle and worries, we forget about who we wanted to become, what we dreamed of (and still dream of), who we really are. We simply sell ourselves to adulthood and responsibility, forgetting who we really are. And it’s not even about the place of work or the city to live in, it’s about the soul and inner worldview.

And then there are people who come into our lives to help us understand who we are, so that we can begin to be ourselves.

People who matter for a moment.

When we start a conversation with a random fellow traveler and just can’t stop. Or when we simply exchange smiles with the person passing on the next escalator. And it really seems like some kind of unearthly connection that just has to exist.

Just because someone doesn't stay in our lives for long doesn't mean there's no meaning or purpose in meeting them. Everything has a meaning. And it is these invisible threads that connect us to each other that make life in this world so incredibly unpredictable, because we never know when we will meet someone who will force us to change our lives.